When you say "this tool" do you mean tribe? Or the Enneagram?

First, let me say that I am very new to the Enneagram. I only learned of it for the first time a year ago. I've been reading lots and lots on line but haven't even picked up a book yet. I've have talked about it with several people who have studied it extensively.

I consider negative Three traits to be: being inauthentic, adapting so adeptly that we lose sense of ourselves and what *we* want as opposed to what others want from us, driving ourselves to exhaustion with intent to impress others, narcissism, social climbing...there are more of course but these come to mind right off the bat.

The healthy behaviors that I would like to exhibit in place of those could be summed up by a desire to take a breath every now and again, ask myself what it is I really want and then be honest about it to myself and others about how to go about achieveing it. I generally don't lie to others, just to myself. I will sometimes tell people what they want to hear but I do have to belive it. It can't be total bullshit.

What I love about being a Three: boundless energy, ability to get things done and motivate others with my contagious energy, and of course the confidence that I *can* get it all done. Cuz I can. :-) Usually. Oops, gotta watch that narcissism.

I have quite a few important 9s in my life. I seem drawn to them. Partly b/c I love to motivate them and get them going. 9s are my loyal side kicks. They will usually help me out when I'm in over my head on a project. I think, also I'm attracted to their sense of peace. And in ways I'm like them. In stress 3s to go 9. I am sure to put my head in the sand like a 9 when I get way stressed.